Dear Gretch,

You’re about to decide whether you will stay single for like months or just hold on sacrificing with the long distance relationship and be paranoid all the time. You will have to tell your boyfriend, Jambe, for a cool off. When you do, he’ll say no because it’s the same thing as breaking up. And then, you will agree and say fine. You’ll cry and beg, "Please don’t do this and that anymore." He’ll be so cold again reminding the past which he don’t understand how scary it is to you. There are times you will unplug your phone again without knowing the reasons why your heart is beating so fast which leads to paranoia. I know you’re afraid that the history will repeat itself, and if that roller coaster stop again, you must know that it hurts to the core. You’ve been there done that, you should be ready and face the reality. One day, you’ll suddenly stop crying because you’re living, taking care of yourself, and working toward your goal. You’ll realize you can feel good-no, great-without a boyfriend. The next thing you know, Jambe will try to win you back that he wants to be with you. At that moment you’ll realize you don’t have space in your life for someone who keeps giving you pain and reminding yourself that you can never be with someone who cheated on you loads. You’ll learn that a lot of things in life are temporary, like a lousy boyfriend and the issues with him and not to let something temporary affect you permanently. You may hurt for a couple weeks or let’s say months, but you don’t know what true love is until you’ve been heartbroken. All the bad experiences will make you enjoy the good things you’ve been blessed with so much more. But you should always come first. And if a guy is meant to be in your life, he will be.

                                                                                  xo, Me!